My dear friend Caroline Saunders, better known as @writercaroline on social media wrote a post for me to share with you guys. She is not only one of the funniest people I know, but also a "sisterfriend" in ministry and she encourages me all the time in my walk with Jesus. She is just one of those people everyone wants to be friends with and yet not in a snobby unattainable person kind of way, but in a sincere, heart of gold kind of way.
Caroline was published in this hysterically funny book called "Same Here, Sisterfriend" and I since I am a fan of laughing, and I love my friend, I am giving away a copy! In order to win a copy, you must follow me, caroline, and sameheresisterfriend on instagram and tag a sisterfriend! (Extra entries for extra friends!!) Giveaway ends Monday at noon!
Here is yet another hilarious and yet serious (how does she do it) entry from my fab friend I endearingly call Carol:
Today my daughter Adelaide, who hates headbands, is wearing a headband. Why? Because Livi Jo wears one. Who is Livi Jo? A friend from preschool. And don’t even get me started on another preschool friend, Ellie Kate—Adelaide would follow Ellie Kate right off a cliff. I assume Livi Jo would be there, too, and they’d all be wearing headbands.
I’d judge my otherwise-strong-willed Adelaide for the power she gives her friends, except first of all, she’s four, and second of all, all my clothing choices for half of my life would rise up and call me hypocrite. (Looking at you, everything I ever purchased from dELiA*s!)
Our friends matter to us, don’t they? They impact a zillion choices, from headbands to music to mannerisms. Sometimes the friendship impact is dangerous, and we need to guard against it. It’s dangerous when, 1) we idolize our friends’ approval and adapt our choices in order to earn it, or, 2) we befriend people who lack integrity.
But when friendships are free from idolatry and bolstered by character, the impact is a beautiful one. God can use the influence of friends to sharpen us, strengthen us, and make our insides more beautiful. (And maybe even our outsides? I have to admit that Adelaide’s new headband look is a good one.)
We love to be spiritual about friendships. I get this, because I can think of multiple times when my friends have been the tool that God used to protect me from spiritual crisis and emotional despair. But you know what else? Friendships are fun, and sometimes we just need to have fun.
My friends do more than inspire me to love Jesus and (I’ll admit it) inspire the occasional clothing choice—they inspire me to laugh. Right now, in this insane season of toddler motherhood, this is my favorite impact my friends have on me.
When we share the absurd messiness of our kitchens, recount the horrifying embarrassment in Target, and lament potty training with the full power of our inner high school thespian, we laugh. Somehow the laughter brings our perspective into full color. The giggles remind us that the things that feel so heavy aren’t really that heavy. They remind us that even when things are heavy, we aren’t alone in them. They remind us that there’s still joy to be discovered even on the bleakest of days.
That’s why I’m glad my friends are not just godly and kind—they’re a little bit ridiculous, too. What a delight that God would orchestrate life so that we could do it together! What a miracle that He’d send His son to obliterate our devastating sin debt so that we could walk with a lightness in our step, knowing that we are covered in Jesus’s righteousness! When we link arms with our sisters who have deep affection for the gospel and a tendency to snort-laugh, we are experiencing a true gift. Thank you, God, for your overwhelming kindness to us! (And for headbands. Thank you for those, too.)